They say that to fall in love is one of the most astounding thing that could ever happen to someone but to fall out of love is really dreadful, especially if you are the one who would like to make it last. Going through heartbreak feels like you’re being drowned and need to breathe. We build our lives together over someone we trust and most cared for, but in one snap, it’s all gone and has left you alone under a tunnel of illusion.
I must say, I am no expert when it comes to neither love nor how to mend a broken heart however, we should remember that to stop loving isn’t the best choice. Henri Nouwen once wrote, “When those you love deeply reject you, leave you, or die, your heart will be broken. But that should not hold you back from loving deeply. The pain that comes from deep love makes your love ever more fruitful.”
Let me share some suggestions that you may want to try perhaps, to somehow help heal your wounded heart:
- Reunite with yourself. You may have been in a relationship for a quite some time now or you were thinking about that person 24/7. It’s time to step backward to look at yourself in the mirror or look at your life right now. It’s okay to be sad and mourn, remember that everyone falls down, but we need to learn how to stand up and dust ourselves off.
- Remove all the things that will remind you of him but do not destroy it. You’re not trying to pretend that the person never existed in your life but just try to give yourself some space temporarily while you are under the healing process. You may give your pre-loved items to the people who are in need instead of burning them all just like what you see in soap operas and promise to make revenge. That is a big NO, NO dear.
- Unfollow him on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. Do not post anything negative about him nor let the whole world know that you are in deep pain. Get out of your online life.
- Go to a spa or salon and give yourself a treat. If you don’t have a budget, invite a friend over and beautify each other.
- Be positive and smile. I know it’s easier said than done but again you don’t want them to see you ruin your life just because your heart’s broken. Show them that you are mature enough to handle the pain and think that this soon shall pass.
- Give yourself two years to completely heal your broken heart. It doesn’t take a day to get over a two or three-year relationship. Everything takes time.
Once you have felt that you are already healed and have forgiven the person who broke your heart, make yourself available to know another and continue to love. Think that this experience will make you a better person for a better someone and not to be bitter about it. Don’t forget that God is in full control and will help you find that one true love.